Selling From Integrity: Sharing Your Gifts Without Losing Yourself

For a long time, the idea of “selling” my work felt uncomfortable. Maybe you can relate? The word itself often carries a weight: images of pressure, persuasion, or giving something up. At its worst, it can feel like selling your integrity or your soul. I’ve certainly felt turned off by offers promising guaranteed results in five steps or by following some “secret method.” I’ve often resisted selling because I don’t want to sound like those cookie-cutter methods that oversimplify what is really complex, human work.

Selling your services doesn’t have to mean selling your integrity. This realization changed the way I approach offering my work.

But what if selling didn’t have to mean any of that?

What if selling was simply about offering your gifts?

When I look at it this way, something shifts. I remember that what I have to share already carries value—not because of how many people sign up or how much someone is willing to pay, but because it comes from a place of care, effort, and experience. Selling, then, is not about manufacturing value or convincing anyone. It’s about affirming the value that already exists and allowing it to be seen.

This perspective helps me approach selling with curiosity, even playfulness. Instead of a high-stakes performance, it becomes a creative practice:

• How can I share what I do in a way that feels real?

• How can I connect with people who might benefit?

• How can I let the process be a game—one where learning and growth matter as much as outcomes?

When I remember this, the pressure eases. Selling becomes less about transactions and more about connection. It becomes a way to be of service, to have an impact, and to keep learning.

And yes, sometimes mistakes happen. Sometimes I get it wrong, or I’m misunderstood. But none of that takes away from the inherent value of what I’m offering.

At its core, selling is not about giving something up—it’s about sharing what’s already within you. Done with integrity, it’s simply another way of letting your gifts meet the world.

If these reflections resonate with you, I’d love to stay connected